In many cases this isn’t about introducing
new initiatives but actually just removing blockers.
What is interesting is the Drama Triangle
that often provides a THEM and US story and why people are POWERLESS and
NOTHING EVER CHANGES
1. The Victim: The Victim's
stance is "Poor me!" The Victim feels victimized,
oppressed, helpless, hopeless, powerless, ashamed, and seems unable to make
decisions, solve problems, take pleasure in life, or achieve insight. The
Victim, if not being persecuted, will seek out a Persecutor and also a Rescuer
who will save the day but also perpetuate the Victim's negative feelings.
2. The Rescuer: The
rescuer's line is "Let me help you." A classic enabler, the Rescuer
feels guilty if they don't go to the rescue. Yet their rescuing has negative
effects: It keeps the Victim dependent and gives the Victim permission to fail.
The rewards derived from this rescue role are that the focus is taken off of
the rescuer. When they focuses their energy on someone else, it enables them to
ignore their own anxiety and issues. This rescue role is also pivotal because
their actual primary interest is really an avoidance of their own problems
disguised as concern for the victim’s needs.
3. The Persecutor: (a.k.a.
Villain) The Persecutor insists, "It's all your fault." The
Persecutor is controlling, blaming, critical, oppressive, angry, authoritative,
rigid, and superior.
It is really important to listen to the
Drama Triangle and help people break-out. Once you have escaped the trap you
have a new path. My role as facilitator is to help them blaze a new trail to
examine people, process and technology to think about policy and practices,
structure and culture to build a new set of circumstances.
As a former athlete and now coach I love the
aim: We create the environment where success is inevitable, which is based on
Lane4
I am also a fan of Team Sky “Rules of the
Bus” which I adapted for the World Champs Rowing Squad to be Rule of the Boat
1.
We will respect each
other and watch each other’s backs
2.
We will train hard
but sensibly and responsibly to drive performance and avoid injury
3.
We will be honest,
but fair with each other
4.
We will be on-time
5.
We will communicate
openly and often
6.
We will put aside
any personal preferences to make the boat go faster
7.
We will debrief
after every race
8.
We will maintain a
log of training and Personal Best milestones which we will be available for
everyone in the team to see
9.
We will always wear
team kit
10.
After every session
every team-member will shake hands – ritual is important to trust
11.
We will respect the
boat
12.
We will be
professional when racing: We will respect our opponents and be magnanimous in
victory and gracious in defeat.
13.
We will request any
changes to be made to boat set-up the day before a race and not on race day
14.
These rules (and any
that are added, amended or deleted) will be agreed and followed by us all.
I feel this approach to taking ownership and managing behaviours
make a real difference
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