I have recently been recommended reading the 48 Laws of Power Click Here
There is some interesting stuff here..
# Law 1 Never outshine the master.
# Law 2 Never put too much trust in friends; learn how to use enemies.
# Law 3 Conceal your intentions.
# Law 4 Always say less than necessary.
# Law 5 So much depends on reputation. Guard it with your life.
# Law 6 Court attention at all costs.
# Law 7 Get others to do the work for you, but always take the credit.
Add 41 more..
The list is long so I'd recommend reading the book or clicking the link above
I'm not sure I agree with these, for example Law 7 seems wrong to me.
I loved the book How to Win Friends and Influence People. I read it 20 years ago, and should read it again because although the advice is simple mastering it has proved a challenge
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I prefer these since I believe legitimate and constructive power comes from relationships rather than command and control
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize, condemn, or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
Six Ways to Make People Like You
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interest.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say "You're Wrong."
3. If you're wrong, admit it quickly and empathically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Start with questions to which the other person will answer yes.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise every improvement.
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.
Please use the comments box below to let me know, what you think, and how you feel about this?
In his book The Game, Neil Strauss observed that the Alpha Male (the one with the power to influence) has confidence and a smile as well as being well-groomed, possessing a sense of humor, connecting with people, and being seen as the social center of a room. This makes perfect sense given the above blog, which notes that any communication is a combination of TOPIC (what we say) and RELATIONSHIP (the way that we say it).
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